When to Have a Baby
Hmm 🤔 that depends on many factors, mostly your maturity level⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Here’s what I mean…⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
The more life-experienced couples with a few stable & healthy years of marriage under their belt, are more likely to be able to manage what’s to come at any of these stages.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
For others: Parenthood, homeownership, marriage, & adjusting to new careers are all MAJOR life-changing commitments to make simultaneously.
To you, I would say, pace yourself.
Science tells us that 35+ are riskier pregnancies but, life shows us that things will happen when they happen. Rushing or forcing these events tends to make life more stressful.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
So to you asking this question, my response is … ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Can you TRULY handle a baby right now? 🧐⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Pregnancy, demands of parenthood, marriage & relationships, coparenting 🙄 meeting your child’s mental, emotional, physical & financial needs while dealing with life, managing the ghettoness that is adulthood and staying true to who you are as an individual. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
With your current resources & support system, is this something you KNOW & BELIEVE you can take on while in school or settling into your new career? 🤔⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
I personally would NOT plan for a baby during the soul-crushing years of grad school training. My nerves ain’t set up for that kinda stress. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Now, if it happens, then it happens 🤷🏾♀️ Many of us have been victims to “the moment” 😈 In those cases; you just make it work.
Read about the experiences of these women who were pregnant in pa school
But to actively PLAN for a baby right before, during, or immediately following school. NO! 😖 Too much could go wrong & there are too many personal needs that the pa program likely won’t, & aren’t obligated 🤨, to workaround.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀